Leaning Into Tender Parts of Ourselves Softly

Heart Wisdom

We all have a part of Self that is whole and untouched by trauma, our 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝗪𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟.

This is the part of us that can witness all the other parts of us and wrap a blanket of 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 around them.

Our Compassionate Self can hold the tender parts of us that hold pain.




𝘋𝘳𝘰𝘱 𝘣𝘺 𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘱.

We can build our capacity to lean into uncomfortable emotions, sensations and parts of self.

We begin by simply starting to name the part, sensation or emotion that is here in the body.

Ahhh Grief 𝘐 𝘴𝘦𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

Ahh the Shamed One, 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

For if we are able to name our parts, that means we are in the 𝘞𝘪𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧.

And a little bit more spaciousness opens up within to rest in the 𝘧𝘦𝘭𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 in the body that this emotion moving through is only 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘶𝘴, not all of who we are.

With each drop, you slowly build the capacity of your nervous system to be with the wave of emotions flowing through your body.

You might begin by imagining that Grief, for example, is knocking at the door of your heart.

Your Compassionate Self may look through the peep hole, and whisper “I see you”.

Then, pause to bring in a resource that holds you to allow the energy a soft place to land, like wrapping yourself in a warm blanket, or drinking a warm cup of tea.

The next drop may be your 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧 opening the door just a crack to Grief, saying “I see you”.

Then, opening the door and inviting Grief to sit in the hallway.

Then over time, inviting Grief to take a seat on the couch with you around the fire, as you listen to what she wishes to share with you.

Give yourself permission to 𝘴𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘺 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯, gently.

𝘋𝘳𝘰𝘱 𝘣𝘺 𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘱 to grow your Compassionate Self.

Those drops then become a stream that flows and connects us to our heart wisdom and innate heart knowing.

Holding all parts of you softly in my heart.

Francesca xo