Leaning Into Tender Parts of Ourselves Softly

Heart Wisdom

We all have a part of Self that is whole and untouched by trauma, our ๐‚๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐—ช๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐ž ๐’๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ.

This is the part of us that can witness all the other parts of us and wrap a blanket of ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ around them.

Our Compassionate Self can hold the tender parts of us that hold pain.




๐˜‹๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ฃ๐˜บ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ.

We can build our capacity to lean into uncomfortable emotions, sensations and parts of self.

We begin by simply starting to name the part, sensation or emotion that is here in the body.

Ahhh Grief ๐˜ ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ.

Ahh the Shamed One, ๐˜ ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ.

For if we are able to name our parts, that means we are in the ๐˜ž๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜š๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง.

And a little bit more spaciousness opens up within to rest in the ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ in the body that this emotion moving through is only ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ถ๐˜ด, not all of who we are.

With each drop, you slowly build the capacity of your nervous system to be with the wave of emotions flowing through your body.

You might begin by imagining that Grief, for example, is knocking at the door of your heart.

Your Compassionate Self may look through the peep hole, and whisper “I see you”.

Then, pause to bring in a resource that holds you to allow the energy a soft place to land, like wrapping yourself in a warm blanket, or drinking a warm cup of tea.

The next drop may be your ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜š๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง opening the door just a crack to Grief, saying “I see you”.

Then, opening the door and inviting Grief to sit in the hallway.

Then over time, inviting Grief to take a seat on the couch with you around the fire, as you listen to what she wishes to share with you.

Give yourself permission to ๐˜ด๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ, gently.

๐˜‹๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ฃ๐˜บ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ to grow your Compassionate Self.

Those drops then become a stream that flows and connects us to our heart wisdom and innate heart knowing.

Holding all parts of you softly in my heart.

Francesca xo